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I go in with zero expectations.

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I noticed a huge shift in my intentions. Lawal remembers the exact moment it switched for him. At the end of , he took a road trip with his friend from Birmingham, Alabama to St. Petersburg, Florida to go to a college bowl game.

Hinge, originally, was a swiping app very similar to Tinder except that it only offered you people who were connected to you through Facebook friends. In advance of their relaunch, they publicized some of their own damning statistics on thedatingapocalypse. McLeod has noticed the same waning of enthusiasm that I have. Whenever using a technology makes people unhappy, the question is always: Is Twitter terrible, or is it just a platform terrible people have taken advantage of? Are dating apps exhausting because of some fundamental problem with the apps, or just because dating is always frustrating and disappointing?

Moira Weigel is a historian and author of the recent book Labor of Love, in which she chronicles how dating has always been difficult, and always been in flux. That does feel different than before.

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Once you meet someone in person, the app is not really involved in how that interaction goes anymore. So if there is a fundamental problem with dating apps that burns people out and keeps them from connecting, it must be found somewhere in the selection process. Hinge seems to have identified the problem as one of design. Without the soulless swiping, people could focus on quality instead of quantity, or so the story goes.

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If you do, you then move to the sort of text-messaging interface that all dating-app users are duly familiar with. People are more selective with this model. It takes a little bit more brainpower to actually show interest in someone, rather than just flicking your thumb to the right. McLeod believes this will make it so that only people who are serious about finding someone will use the app.

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Whether many people will be willing to pay for it remains to be seen. And the majority of them expressed some level of frustration with the experience, regardless of which particular products they used. It's possible dating app users are suffering from the oft-discussed paradox of choice.

This is the idea that having more choices, while it may seem good… is actually bad. And when they do decide, they tend to be less satisfied with their choices, just thinking about all the sandwiches and girlfriends they could have had instead. The paralysis is real: According to a study of an unnamed dating app, 49 percent of people who message a match never receive a response.

And that's almost more important. A pocket full of maybe that you can carry around to ward off despair. But the sense of infinite possibility online has real-world effects.

Marriages become unstable. Divorces increase. Men are making that shift, and women are forced to go along with it in order to mate at all. Now hold on there a minute. We need to puzzle out why women have made more strides in the public arena than in the private arena. The data underpinning a widely cited study claiming millennials have fewer sex partners than previous generations proves to be open to interpretation, incidentally. The study, published in May in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, became a talking point for its surprising conclusion that millennials are having sex with fewer people than Gen X-ers and baby-boomers at the same age.

On a steamy night at Satsko, everyone is Tindering. Or OkCupiding, or Happning, or Hinging. The tables are filled with young women and men drinking sake and beer and intermittently checking their phones and swiping. At a table in the front, six young women have met up for an after-work drink. None of them are in relationships, they say. No one gets hurt—well, not on the surface. They tell me how, at their school, an adjunct instructor in philosophy, Kerry Cronin, teaches a freshman class in which an optional assignment is going out on an actual date.

Oh my God, he just texted me! Do you think you would like to get choke-fucked, tied up, slapped, throat-fucked and cummed on? I think we could have a wild afternoon together but I am happy just to share brunch with you. On another busy night at the same bar, at the same table in the front, three good-looking guys are having beers.

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They are John, Nick, and Brian, 26, 25, and 25; John is the marketing executive mentioned above, Nick works in the fitness industry, and Brian is an educator. When asked about their experience with dating apps, their assessment is quite different from the interns from Boston College.

Nick, with his lumbersexual beard and hipster clothes, as if plucked from the wardrobe closet of Girls, is, physically speaking, a modern male ideal. She found out by looking at my phone—rookie mistake, not deleting everything. He holds up his phone, with its cracked screen, to show a Tinder conversation between him and a young woman who provided her number after he offered a series of emojis, including the ones for pizza and beer.

Girls do the same, but they get judged. I have a good time.

Men in the age of dating apps can be very cavalier, women say. One would think that having access to these nifty machines their phones that can summon up an abundance of no-strings-attached sex would make them feel happy, even grateful, and so inspired to be polite. But, based on interviews with more than 50 young women in New York, Indiana, and Delaware, aged 19 to 29, the opposite seems to be the case.

Is it possible that now the potentially de-stabilizing trend women are having to contend with is the lack of respect they encounter from the men with whom they have sex? Could the ready availability of sex provided by dating apps actually be making men respect women less? There are many evolved men, but there may be something going on in hookup culture now that is making some more resistant to evolving. Such a problem has the disrespectful behavior of men online become that there has been a wave of dating apps launched by women in response to it.

There is Bumble, created by Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe, who sued the company after she was allegedly sexually harassed by C. Justin Mateen. To be sure, factors other than the double standard are at work in rapes of acquaintances. Malamuth reported on a series of recent studies intended to identify attributes that make some men more likely than others to force sex on a woman.

Malamuth used a combination of questionnaires about attitudes toward sex. He also observed the reactions of men to stories depicting sexual incidents. While the men read the stories, a sensor detected the degree of their sexual arousal. The men who were most likely to become aroused by a story in which a woman was forced to have sex despite protests tended to share other attitudes.

One of these was the idea that dominance itself was a motive for sex; they agreed with statements like ''I enjoy the conquest. A third, not surprisingly, is an acceptance of sexual violence. For instance, they might agree with the statement, ''Sometimes the only way a man can get a cold woman turned on is to use force.

Lance Shotland, a psychologist at Pennsylvania State University. Shotland and Jane Craig, a research associate, found that men tended to interpret a woman's actions on a date, even such innocuous acts as speaking in a low voice or smiling, as indicating that she was interested in sex. Women, however, tended to see the same behaviors as simply being ''friendly. Other research has shown that men, particularly younger ones, tend to have difficulty discriminating between what women do that is merely friendly, and what indicates sexual interest.

A woman drinking, coming to a man's apartment or wearing ''sexy'' clothes, for instance, all tended to be seen by men as indicators that the woman was interested in sex, while women did not agree, Dr. Muehlenhard found in a study. In a California study, 43 percent of men of high school and college age said that by the fifth date it was ''acceptable'' for a man to force sex on a woman, and 39 percent of the men said it was acceptable if the man had ''spent a lot of money on her.

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Assumptions like these about the acceptability of sex are at play in gang rape, a rare event that occurs disproportionately on college campuses, where most cases go unreported, according to Dr. Chris O'Sullivan, a psychologist at Bucknell University. In a study this year of 23 incidents of gang rape, she found that the men involved seemed to think that what they were doing was ''O. In virtually all the incidents, the raped woman was known by one or more of the men. Most of the rapes involved fraternities, or football or basketball teams.

The women who are raped by these groups are, in the men's eyes, distinguished from the women they date in terms of respectability. One man involved in a gang rape by football teammates, told Dr.